Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Tonsilectomy/sleep apnea/swallowing

I haven't had a chance to update in a few weeks, but boy have we been busy. Today Connor is in surgery to remove his tonsils, do a scope of his vocal cord area and take washings of the lungs to send for a biopsy to see what he is aspirating. After the initial sleep study we saw our ENT who advised that the report showed Connor has Central Sleep Apnea which means that his brain is not signalling to his body to breath at times when he is sleeping and only one episode of Obstructive Sleep Apnea which was not considered abnormal so he recommended leaving the tonsils alone and would proceed with the scope and lung biopsy to see if anything could be done for Connor's aspiration of liquids. We were referred to a Sleep Specialist to determine if Connor should be on oxygen while sleeping for the Central Sleep Apnea.

I was lucky to get him an appointment with a Sleep Specialist at Children's hopsital the following week. As soon as the doctor reviewed the results of the sleep study and looked at Connor's tonsils, he recommended removing Connor's tonsils and going for a follow up sleep study 6 weeks after surgery. He said that even though the Obstructive Sleep Apnea did not show up during the sleep study, he still believed that Connor did have it and wanted to remove his gigantic tonsils. We are hoping that removing the tonsils will help with the swallowing problems as well.

In 6 weeks Connor will go for a follow up sleep study and they are hoping to see all sleep apnea resolved, but if he does still have episodes of Central Sleep Apnea, he will have to go for even more testing. They beleive that it is possible that Connor has a Chiari Malformation which is a problem with the brain stem that affects sleep and swallowing. I guess there is nothing we can do except wait and see and today we will focus on his surgery and recovery. He will have to go for a sedated MRI to check for this.

We have been told to expect a long 14 day recovery and I have heard some terrible stories about recovery so we are praying it is easy for Connor. Will keep you updated!

Here is Connor in the waiting room this morning prior to surgery

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Swallow/Sleep Update

On Monday Connor went back to his ENT for his sleep study results and to check on his ear tubes. Once again we got no answers and left with more questions!  We did learn that Connor does not need to have his tonsils out at this time because he does not have Obstructive Sleep Apnea which is good news.  It was thought that he would definitely have Obstructive Sleep Apnea because of his extremely large tonsils. If this sleep apnea was found they were going to remove his tonsils and hope that would help his silent aspiration when drinking thin liquids as well. We did learn, however, that Connor has Central Sleep Apnea. This means that his brain is not telling his body to breathe at times during sleep. The report shows that he stopped breathing 18 times during the night for an average of 10 seconds and his oxygen levels dropped to 87%. The only thing the doctor said about this was that he probably should be on oxygen while sleeping to prevent dropping to dangerous levels, but we should see either a Pulmonologist or a doctor from the Sleep Lab.

So, the next step to resolve the silent aspiration problem is to have Connor go in for a Laryngoscopy which is exploratory surgery to look at the back of his throat and larynx and to biopsy the lungs. They did a basic version of this last time we were in the office, but they want to do it under anesthesia so they can go further in and see things more closely. If they do not find any structural damage causing the silent aspiration during this test then we will be referred for feeding and swallowing therapy to hopefully teach Connor the proper way to drink and the hope is he would eventually outgrow it. If they find food or something else in the lungs then we will be referred to other doctors. So, back to the waiting game.

I have done a lot of research on the Central Sleep Apnea the last few days since the ENT did not give us much info on it. It appears to be very rare in children. The Sleep Study was done at Tufts Medical Center since that is wear his ENT is located, but I decided that I would rather take him to Children's Hospital and was able to get him an appointment in the Center for Sleep Disorders on Monday. Hopefully they will be able to explain the report and give us some explanation as to why he stops breathing periodically during the night. I am still not convinced it was an accurate test since he didn't sleep a lot of the night and pulled just about every wire off at one point or another, so I do plan to ask about that as well.

It is very frustrating that we still have no answers and have learned of a completely new problem. If they do decide to put him on oxygen at night we are in big trouble because there is NO WAY he will leave it on!!!

Will update again next week as soon as we learn some new info.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Happy Halloween (a little late)

Halloween was postponed until November 5th here in Atkinson this year due to the October snowstorm and the widespread power outage!  Connor was the cutest monkey I have ever seen and of course Makayla dressed up as a princess =)  What else would she be?!?! This time Makayla dressed as Belle from Beauty and the Beast because her and Emma decided to trade their dresses from our summer vacation to Disney. We all went trick-or-treating around the neighborhood and made it down to Mem and Pa's house for a short break before heading back home.





Pa and all the kids =)

Monday, October 31, 2011

Day 31 - My Letter to Connor

Dear Connor,

I want to start out by saying that I love you with all my heart.  Before you were born and we found out that you had a problem with your heart we were so scared. After you were born and we learned that you had Down Syndrome we were still scared. Afraid of the future, afraid you would be treated poorly, afraid that you wouldn't be given a chance.  Looking back at that time now I do not know why I was scared. You have taught me that there is nothing to be afraid of. Together as a family we can get through anything. You are the strongest person I have ever met. You fought through your time in the NICU and were able to come home just 10 days after you were born even though the doctors thought you would have to stay much longer. You fought through your heart surgery and your recovery. I know that you will fight through whatever is sent your way. You work so hard to reach all of your goals. You try and try again until you accomplish what you were working so hard to achieve. I admire your strength and your work ethic and you are not even 22 months old.

You have opened my eyes to a whole new world! I have learned that every person deserves understanding and respect. Every person should be given a chance to follow their dreams. Because of you I have met so many amazing people.  You make life interesting and fun. You always see the best in every situation and go through everyday with a smile on your face.

I love everything about you. I love your smile and your giggles. I love how you are so stubborn and will work at something until you figure it out. I love your tiny hands and feet. I love that even though you have the tiniest feet it is still impossible to get them in a shoe! I love your belly and the giggles I get when I tickle that belly. I love the way you blow a kiss. I love your hugs especially when you give an extra tight squeeze. I love the way you say mamamama and climb into my lap for a hug. I love your scar on your chest because it is a constant reminder of what a fighter your are. I love it when you dance and I know that I will love it when you sing once you learn to talk.  I love that you know how to give the perfect little smile to make me melt. You have me wrapped around your little finger =)

I look forward to seeing you grow up and seeing all the things that I know you will accomplish. You have taught me to love deeper than I ever thought was possible. That love grows deeper and deeper everyday and everytime I see you smile. We are all in this journey together and I can't wait to see where it is going to take us. I will be with you every step of the way. I love you with all of my heart Connor.

Love,
Mom

















Sunday, October 30, 2011

Day 30 - Helping out around the house

Connor loves to help out with the family chores. He makes these times much more enjoyable since he is so curious and funny about it.  He loves to clean the floors and does a great job sweeping with his belly during his inchworm crawl =)  He loves to help vacuum and chases me around everywhere that I go, he will even pull the chord out and bring it over to me when I am ready to move to another room!



Connor helps mow the lawn and rake the leaves.



Connor's absolute favorite job is to help fold (and unfold) the laundry.



Now that he is standing he loves to help change the sheets on the bed and helps tuck them in on the bottom. He even likes to help clean the toilets but I try to keep him away from that job!

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Day 29 - Daddy's Boy

Connor and his daddy are great buddies!  Connor smiles whenever daddy walks in the room. He loves to show off his new skills that he has been working on as soon as daddy gets home from work. No matter how grumpy he has been all day, he always gets so excited to hear his voice and wants to give him the biggest hug.  One of Connor's favorie hobbies is helping daddy with his latest construction project.  To be honest, I am pretty sure that when Connor is "helping" daddy, they get about ten minutes of productive work for each hour of time they spend together, but they are having so much fun, I can't seem to have a probelm with it. When they are not working on the house, they love to hang out and watch sports. Sometimes I think his next words will be "GO PATRIOTS!

Daddy was there supporting Connor from the very first moment and has been there for him every step of the way since then. After Connor was born, they immediately took him to the NICU for testing and Jeff went with him right away because we did not want Connor to be alone. They both love each other so much and I know that is never going to change.


Daddy watching all of the monitors in the NICU

Daddy cuddling with Connor and Makayla

Daddy and Connor playing

Daddy and Connor in Disney World

Daddy and Connor at the beach

Friday, October 28, 2011

Day 28 - Insurance Battles

We have been struggling with our insurance company since the very beginning. It all started back in 2009 when I was still pregnant with Connor. When my doctor first saw a heart abnormality on an ultrasound in December of 2009 he immediately sent me for a level 2 ultrasound at our local hospital, Lawrence General where Connor would be born. From there, we were sent to Tufts Medical Center in Boston for a Fetal Echo where the heart defect was officialy diagnosed. That was about a week after the first level 2 ultrasound. Shortly after that I received a statement from insurance indicating that the level 2 ultrasound was not covered as the Doctor who perfomed it was out of network. First of all, we were not given a choice when we were sent for the testing and the test was done at a hospital that was covered by our insurance. We called our insurance company and were informed that even though the doctor came to Lawrence General he was from Tufts Medical Center which is not part of the network covered and the equipment used was technically the Doctors and therefore not covered. We had been told that Connor should be delivered in Boston due to the high risk pregnancy, but that it was still an option to deliver at Lawrence General if we planned to induce the one day of the month that a cardiologist from Tufts would be on duty at Lawrence General. We found out that either way we would not have insurance coverage for any of this. After many, many discussions with the insurance company we discovered that there would be coverage if the delivery was an emergency situation such as if I was transported in an ambulance or if Connor was born at Lawrence General and then trasported himself in an ambulance as an emergency.  We spoke with my doctor as well as Connor's future pediatrician's office to see if they had any more information. The office manager at the pediatrician was fantastic and called our insurance company on multiple occasions explaining the situation. The only problem was it is impossible to get through to someone who can help. The doctors can only talk to specific departments, the patients can only talk to other specific departments and no one on their end communicates with each other. As if we didn't have enough to worry about with the heart defect, we now had to worry about how we were going to pay for it!

During all of this arguing we also recieved a bill for $585 Makayla's nebulizer that was medically necessary and given to us at the pediatrician's office. Again, we weren't given a choice as to where we could get this nebulizer. It turned out that the medical supply facility was not covered by our insurance. After fighting for this one they changed the billing code to have it come from our doctor's office so the claim was paid in the end.

On January 12, 2010, we were scheduled for a second level 2 ultrasound at Lawrence General.  At this time the High Risk doctor informed us that we needed to go to Tufts Medical Center immediately for them to induce labor and deliver. We explained our insurance situation and he was outraged. He actually called our insurance company himself and spent over an hour and half trying to get through to the correct person to insure that there would be coverage for the delivery of Connor in Boston.

I remember the whole process being such a nightmare. How could they not want us to have the best care for our baby? There were no other pediatric cardiologists in the area so it wasn't like we really had much of a choice. The only one actually covered in their network was about 2.5 hours away.

Thankfully it all worked out in the end with the help of an amazing doctor and the office manager at the pediatrician's office.

I have since learned that you literally have to fight for coverage on many different things. They will try to reject as much as possible just to see if you will pay. Hospitals, doctors, etc. submit under incorrect codes a lot and insurance will not accept the claim. We were triple billed our deductible for Connor's birth. We were billed by the hospital, by the specific doctor that delivered, and again for Baby Boy Murphy. It took months of phone calls to clear this up. The hospital even sent us to a collection agency even though we kept trying to explain that they were billing us for Connor Murphy and for Baby Boy Murphy. I believe that this situation has finally been resolved. I think I got my last bill for Baby Boy Murphy about 2 months ago and insurance finally paid the bill. I can't be certain about that but hopefully I will not receive another bill as it is now 21 months later! 

As soon as we were introduced to Early Intervention, we were told to apply for Katie Beckett Medicaid which in the State of NH is not financially based, but based only on Connor's medical needs and his finances. We were told that due to his mulitple Diagnoses he would automatically qualify and they would reimburse up to 6 months in previous medical bills. They would cover deductibles, co-pays, prescriptions, etc. that the primary insurance did not pick up. Sounded perfect to me since we were already spending a ton on our medical bills. Turns out it was not so easy. After waiting over 4 months to hear anything from them we received a rejection letter stating that Connor was not eligible because he had already had his heart surgery at this point. This really would not have bothered me but after everything else we had been through with insurance I was ready for another fight and since I had been told he would automatically qualify I had to understand why he didn't. So I decided to appeal the decision.  Several of his doctors wrote letter to Medicaid showing why Connor should qualify as he had also been diagnosed with the Ocular Albinism. Once they received this paperwork we received a letter within 2 weeks advising that Connor did qualify.

I guess my moral of this story is to always question the bills you get from doctors, hospitals, etc. if you are unsure. They really do try to see what they can get away with. It is certainly a pain to fight them on the claims, but if you keep at it and keep calling you may just find that there really should be covereage.

In the end it all worked out for us, but has certainly been stressful along they way!